Monthly Archives: December 2012

Red Flags to Look for in a Relationship

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If you notice any of the following signs in a partner, be seriously concerned that the relationship may become violent:

. Quick involvement

. Jealousy

. Isolation

. Controlling behavior

. Verbal abuse

. Emotional abuse

. Hypersensitivity

. Victim of abuse as a child

. Jekyll-Hyde behavior

. Blaming others for his problems

. Blaming others for his feelings

. Using force during an argument

. Threats of violence

. Rigid sex roles

. Sexual abuse (including forced sex in marriage)

. Breaking or striking objects

. Cruelty to animals or children

. Past battering

If your partner exhibits three or more of these characteristics, he or she may be abusive!!!

Coping Skills for the Holidays

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1.  Three slow, deep belly breaths can work wonders to calm your nerves.

2.  Focus on experiences rather than material things.

3.  Take care of yourself first (think of the airplane oxygen mask analogy). It is o.k. to say no.

4.  Minimize your time with people who stress you out.

5.  Nutrition is important.

6.  Exercise is too! Research shows exercise is as effective as antidepressant medications.

7.  Getting a massage or taking a hot bath are great stress-relievers.

8.  Recognize what you do and don’t have control over.

9.  Avoid or minimize alcohol, especially in situations where you are not with people

you trust and feel safe with. And remember that alcohol is a depressant.

10. Get support – from friends, family, or maybe a counselor or support group.